He's only, like, thirteen. And I've no idea what to do. Here's some background:
His boyfriend (we'll call him Nathan) and I got in a fight once when he took my friend's phone and texted me that he (my friend, let's call him Mick) was "uhm, busy" and of course I got really nosy and essentially started interrogating him. Nathan started cursing me out before finally saying that Mick was having a panic attack. I apologised, Nathan cursed me out some more, and I felt horrible for the rest of the day.
A week later, Nathan texted me from Mick's phone again, and we had a bit more of a civilised conversation. He said that Mick was worried that I would hate him because I knew that Nathan was seeing someone else at the same time as he was Mick. I explained that I respected that, and I was no stranger to a poly relationship, to which he replied: well, yeah, but Mick's the only one of my SO's that know. I don't think he'll tell, though, because he knows that if I had a choice, I sure wouldn't pick him.
I got mad, but didn't reply because I was afraid of another incident. I was meaning to tell Mick at school, but he got a new schedule and I no longer had any classes with him. I couldn't text him, either, because it seemed like Nathan had his phone more than he did.
So I didn't do anything. And then the entire thing slipped my mind.
Yesterday, my family moved a few hours away. In the car on the way to our new apartment, I started texting Mick because I never really got to talk to him anymore. In the middle of our conversation, he said goodbye. So I said "okay, I'll talk to you later?"
He said: not really.
I figured he was being all technical with me, so I said: okay, text you later?
To which he said - I won't answer. I'll be gone.
And now I'm borderline panicking, because I know that he has anxiety and so he probably had depression as well, and so there's a chance he's talking about suicide, so I engage him in conversation for a little longer. I ask him if he's okay, if I should be worried, and so on. After fifteen minutes of him giving me answers like "that's up to you" and "why would I be okay?" I get a bit exasperated. I ask if I can get a straight answer.
And he goes off on me - "it's not my fault I'm such a failure"
So I try to get him to realise that he's not one, and such, but he keeps saying self-deprecating things, and I'm getting worried, so I email our assistant principal that I think one of our counselors should get in contact with Mick. I know that there's a 89% chance he'll hate me for it.
I text him: please don't hate me.
And I get a "hi"
Me: This isn't Nathan, is it?
Nathan: He'll hate you when I tell him that you said you wish he would kill himself.
Me: I never said that.
Nathan: He won't know that.
Me: Why would you even do that? Why would he believe you?
Nathan: If I delete the texts, he'll believe me. I'll just tell him that I didn't want him to see. And if I help him get over it and pretend to save him, I can probably score a (uhhhh probably not allowed to say that but it starts with a "b")
M: You wouldn't dare.
N: Wanna bet?
No. No I don't. I don't bet on people's lives. This could be the thing that sets him over the edge, and now I'm really panicking, and I might black out, and I need to tell somebody so I tell my mom and she is no help whatsoever.
N: Why not?
M: You'll hurt him. I don't like when people hurt my friends.
N: So? And maybe he'll finally do it (implying suicide) and I'll be free of him. I won't have to deal with his whining and cutting himself.
Mick cuts himself? God, I wish I were still there. I wish I could directly help.
M: Just break up with him if you want to "be free of him" like normal people.
N: But then I'll have to deal with more whining.
My thoughts: ??????? No? You won't? You'll have broken up with him?? It's not like you live in the same house????
Wait, do they?
No. I don't think so.
N: I honestly just wish he'd man up and kill himself.
And now I'm on the verge of tears. I also might throw up. This is great, just what I needed on a Friday.
Then I get an idea. Nathan probably doesn't know I'm moving. That means...
M: I've taken screenshots of our conversation. Now, even if you tell him, I'll show him the proof at school.
N: He already told me that you're not coming back.
M: I still have friends who know Mick. I'll have them show him.
M: Why would I tell you? How do I know you won't start harassing them?
N: Well, I'm off to tell Mick. Good luck, [censored because this is a PG website]
I have a friend who's going to try to show the screenshots to Mick at school, but I feel so powerless because I'm nowhere near there. And we're on spring break - if Nathan tells Mick today, he has a whole week to get into his head and drive him to suicide.
Nathan doesn't go to our school, and it's not like I can get the police involved. I also have no way of contacting Mick - how do I know Nathan isn't monitoring his texts, or if he's pretending to be Mick?
My only hope is that Mick stays alive until my school gets back from break so that my friend can show him the texts. But I don't even know if it will work. It might make him feel worse.
Any advice? Please help. I'm scared for my friend.
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