Everyone here has fair points, and I'll like to applaud you all for approaching this logically and not going ham on each other. It's wonderful that you've all reached this point. I'm stepping in here because it seems to me that both the LGBTQ+ people and straight people have a lot in common. Below are the four main ideas I've seen on this thread, with both LGBTQ+ and straight perspectives on them. As I'm only a part of the straight group, I can only truly speak for them, but I did my best to represent both from what I've seen from my time on this and other forums. Please correct me if you feel something is inaccurate. I'd also love if other people could add commentary on headings, giving more insights onto the differences but overarching similarities between the groups. Thanks for your contributions towards better understanding on this forum. ;D
1) EVERY PERSON DESERVES TO BE TREATED FAIRLY, WITH RESPECT AND EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES
LGBTQ+: We should not be denied the basic decency and rights afforded to everyone else. We are all people, and deserve to be treated as such.
Straight: We should not be portrayed as hating the LGBTQ+ community. We acknowledge that there are some straight people who are strongly against the LGBTQ+ community, but the vast majority of us aren't. Some of us may not agree with the community (see below), but that does not mean we hate them.
2) BOTH SIDES DON'T HAVE TO AGREE TO TREAT THE OTHER WITH CIVILITY.
LGBTQ+: We do not agree with the sediments of those who do not agree with our lives, but we ask that they allow us our choice, just as we allow them theirs. What we personally believe is up to us, and while we may not agree with or completely understand the beliefs of others, we will treat them with the courtesy they deserve and only ask that they do the same for us.
Straight: We have three distinct groups; those who have no strong opinions on the LGBTQ+ community either way, those who are pro-LGBTQ+, and those who do not agree with the LGBTQ+ community for some religious or personal reason. Not speaking for the first two as they have no bearing on this, we may not agree with the concept of being LGBTQ+, but we do not love the people who are any less. What we think is up to us, and while we may not agree with or completely understand the beliefs of others, we will treat them with the courtesy they deserve and only ask that they do the same for us.
4) MOST EVERYONE IS PART OF SOME MINORITY- WE ALL HAVE HISTORY
LGBTQ+: We are stereotyped and judged by people who don't know us. There is so much pain and heartbreak that follows us, just look in the news.
Straight: Religion, race, gender, beliefs: we all carry history with us of our minority being treated poorly. Because many of us know what it's like to be treated this way, we try not to do it to you. Remember that everyone has their own stories, but we are all usually too wrapped up in our own to see them. Don't judge us in the way that you are fighting against being judged yourself.
5) EVERYONE SHOULD TAKE PRIDE IN THEMSELVES
LGTBQ+: We have pride month to celebrate what makes us special. Just because we are different that what is considered to be normal does not mean that we should not love ourselves for being ourselves.
Straight: We are equally as special as those who are LGTBQ+. We don't need a pride month since we are not pressing for our equal rights, but 11 months of the year aren't "straight pride" months. We don't use our sexuality or gender to express ourselves, but we celebrate and acknowledge the many other outlets straight and LGTBQ+ people use. Please don't accidentally or purposefully make us feel like we are worth less because we aren't LGTBQ+.
There are total wackos in every group, please don't judge us by their examples. They are minorities within our groups, and do not represent the group as a whole. We appreciate each other as complex and feeling individuals, not only "LGBTQ+" or "straight" people. Everyone deserves civility and respect, regardless of their gender or sexuality.